I know I haven’t been around much – I’ve had plenty to say but just haven’t found the time to put it all out there.
Today, I’m frustrated. Really, I’ve been frustrated for a couple of weeks now. Colin’s been out of control and I just don’t know what to do – again.
We haven’t changed meds, we haven’t changed routine. Everything is pretty much the same at the Crazy Antelope House. Only Colin’s suddenly acting out at every. single. opportunity.
The moment an adult back is turned, he’s up to no good. In the last two weeks he has:
- bitten Rodeo on the penis
- spit on his brothers’ food
- stolen Halloween candy from the kitchen
- stuck a pair of tweezers in an outlet and blown a fuse (thank god nothing worse happened)
- stolen a STEAK KNIFE from the kitchen and hid it under his nightstand (which we had turned around to face the wall because he kept hiding things in the drawer)
- stolen a handful of straight pins from my sewing table and placed them in random places around his room
- ran AWAY from Rick as he was picking them up from school (he was chasing a friend)
And the latest… today he ran away from school. (more on that in a minute)
We’ve gotten to the point where he has to be in our line of sight during every waking moment. He’s not allowed to play in his brothers’ room at all and now he’s not even allowed to go to his room, either, unless its bedtime. So now, it’s almost as if he’s sitting in wait… all I have to do is turn around to pack up leftovers and he’s biting the dog or messing with his brothers, pocketing something that isn’t his, etc. It’s exhausting.
Today, about 20 minutes before school let out, I got a call. Colin had run from the school. I found out later that he was in his special ed class and just out of control. The Special Ed teacher called the school counselor and asked her to come help. Shortly after, Colin was spinning and dancing and refused to settle down…then bolted out the door.
He ran out of the school, across the basketball court…and into the woods behind the school. He refused to come out. Five different staff members tried to reason with him, but he wouldn’t give in. Finally, they agreed to let Rick come get him if he’d just come back to the school.
(Rick’s phone went to voicemail so they called me next. Rick and I then proceeded to try to call each other at the same time!)
Colin’s been suspended for a day. Rick tried to reason with the staff members, explaining that keeping him home is just reinforcing the bad behavior. Oh! If I act like THIS then I get what I want – which is staying home!
Last week, he spent a good 2-3 days pretending he was sick and had lost his voice because he wanted to stay home. I left work early on Monday to get him and take him to the doctor only to find there was absolutely nothing wrong. No redness, no drainage, no fever, no strep. Thursday he went to the nurse again and they called me. I told her if he wasn’t sick (he wasn’t) then he needed to go back to class.
He went back to the classroom and told his teacher that the nurse had told him to get his backpack and walk home – that I’d said it was okay! Thankfully everyone at the school knows Colin well enough to double-check a story like that.
I don’t know what’s going on. He does NOT want to be at school, which is obvious. I don’t know if he’s starting to realize he’s different or what. That seems to be the case at home – his brothers are definitely noticing more and more. They have friends; Colin doesn’t really have friends. They’re allowed to go to play at someone’s house for an afternoon; Colin doesn’t get invited.
I don’t know what else it could be. Aside from the craziness at school today, he’s been fairly calm when making these horrible choices. Rick noticed that today – he isn’t manic and impulsive like he used to be during the worst offenses. In fact, he’s pretty dang calm.
Just this morning, we started having him meet with the play therapist (Dr. H) Robbie & Ryan were going to. Our plan was to let Colin go every 3rd time, then every other time… slowly phasing R&R out of the therapy sessions. We explained to them that they are doing great and we are SO incredibly proud of them. They understand that Colin needs more help. We also told them the door is open for them to go see Dr. H if they ever feel the need.
Today was his first day of therapy. I wish he could go back sooner without upsetting the other two, but I don’t see how.
The school also seems to FINALLY be willing to do a psych eval and possibly accept the ASD diagnosis that we’ve had for 2 years now.
I sense some bumpy patches ahead.